Monday, June 21, 2010
No One Can Make YoU Feel Inferior
Earlier, I cried out of frustration and exhaustion. I was made to feel stupid by one person and what bothered me the most is I let myself be treated in such a manner.
Eleanor Roosevelt once said, "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." I should need to constantly remind myself of these words.
While I was writing this blog, I was able to read an article related with this quote. In this article, Life Skills Coach, Carol Sheets mentions that other people have no control over you unless you let them and we should not give them the power to do so. We control our reactions to any situation.
And as it is typical to feel or react from the negative emotions the other person has put on you, you should not allow yourself to cherish that feelings enduringly and belie your sense of self worth. We have the power to change our emotions to a more positive aspect.
Carol Sheets mentioned in her article, "although the feelings are normal, it's what you do with them and how you process them that reconnect you to your power."
She specified a three-step process to help you cope and regain your power when you encounter those authoritative, power driven people:
1) take a deep breath
2) feel the feeling
3) then remind yourself that you won't let the person's words affect your self-esteem
From the words of Carol Sheets, "Life is about choices. You can't control how others treat you, but you can definitely choose how you let it affect you!"
With this in mind, I will try to look at things in a different perspective from now on. I will also try the above steps given the situation.
Lately, I keep forgetting that my true worth is not determined by my job but with the positive relationships I build with others and being able to overcome the difficulties in life with integrity. Developing my character is what I would like myself to improve on. Maybe these experiences are helping me to achieve it depending on my reactions.
As P.B. Fitzwater puts it, “Character is the sum and total of a person's choices.”
Just a food for thought.....
“Watch your THOUGHTS, for they become WORDS.
Watch your WORDS, for they become ACTIONS.
Watch your ACTIONS, for they become HABITS.
Watch your HABITS, for they become CHARACTER.
Watch your CHARACTER, for it becomes your DESTINY!"